My daughter and I had a discussion the other day and she told me there was something she wanted to do at school but had been too afraid to ask.
We talked about why she had been afraid to ask and what she thought would happen if she did ask. I tried to explain to her that she should ask for whatever she wanted and the absolute worst thing that could happen was that the other person would say no. And in the end, what is a no? A challenge to change their minds?
I don’t know, maybe that’s just me and the odd way that I think.
When we are babies we have no problem asking for whatever we want. It’s not really a request, it’s usually a demand but we ask for what we want. At what age do we decide that it is a bad thing to ask for things? Who in our lives tells us that we are wrong for knowing exactly what we want and what we don’t?
I challenge you to do one thing per day that is for you and for you only. Maybe it’s not staying late at work when your boss gives you an assignment at the last minute. Maybe it’s telling your kids/husband that you don’t feel like cooking dinner or that they need to do the dishes. Take a few minutes to yourself for a bath or to read a book or just sit and stare at the wall if that is what you want to do.
Don’t let anyone make you feel guilty or less than for putting yourself first. You are worth it.